A new research shows that, yeah, long-term relationships offer better sex than casual hookups — but you knew that.
In 2014 the Pew Research Center reported 27 percent of couples said the internet has had an impact on their relationship. Since then, the internet has become so integral to everyday life that it’s embedded in our culture and relationships. The rise of the internet has sped up the life cycle of relationships, and ultimately affects dating and other forms of intimate behavior. New research, in a Salon exclusive, shows current American and European trends in the progression of intimate relationships.
A team of researchers at Dr.Ed surveyed 2,000 participants to determine contemporary sexual tendencies and preferences.The survey examined criteria from the length of time couples wait to have sex and frequency of sex based on relationship length to sexual satisfaction and which partner is more likely to make their partner climax.
The survey found — in not shocking news — that 64 percent of men climax during a one night stand, while only 11 percent of women reported the same. Women were found to climax more consistently with a long-term partner, while men claimed to plateau with a stable partner.
Many factors, of course, contribute to sexual satisfaction. One factor noted in the survey was lighting. Although some research suggests bright lights can enhance men’s enjoyment, single survey respondents were the only group to preferred having sex with the lights on.
Another factor that is heavily influencing bedroom behavior is alcohol. The survey found that 48 percent of men in new relationships prefer drunk sex to sober sex. As times goes on, couples were less likely to need alcohol to lower their sexual inhibitions except in the case of women who had been married for 11 years or longer.
The survey found that sexual satisfaction wanes for women during the first year of a new relationship. Female respondents reported 74 percent who were in the first six months of a new relationship were sexually satisfied. That percentage fell to 47 percent during the six months to one year period. But there’s some good news! Sexual satisfaction for women in long-term relationships spiked to 56 percent.
Waning sexual satisfaction is often a contributing factor to infidelity. The survey found that partners are more likely to cheat as the relationship progresses and sexual satisfaction either plateaus or declines. Men were seen to cheat more often than women at early points in a relationship, but women surpassed the percentage of men who cheat in long-term relationships.
This survey surprised me because I expected things to be a little more bleak. More and more news reports showcase the dystopia we live in, and it would make sense that relationships would begin to crumble alongside our faith in democracy. But the opposite seems to be true.
Despite the technological distractions and the joke our government has become, relationships — love — can still be seen flourishing. Maybe it’s not exactly in evolutionary terms, but hey, it’s progress.